The Unraveling

Columbus, Ohio 2-15-21 – Ron’s View

We are close to a year into a pandemic that has changed the way life looks for many people.  I would like to say it has changed it from everyone, but the prolonging of this isolation is for the most part due to people not wanting to come together and take the steps needed to reduce the virus to manageable levels.  The question is what do we blame this on?  Polarizing politics?  Bad science/religion?  Does it come down to the selfishness of human nature? 

I guess that is the primer for the big unraveling Sally and I have undertaken.    In the middle of a pandemic, as we isolate more than 90 percent of the population, we have finished a 2000 sqft basement, prepared a home to sell and then sold that house.  That in itself is a huge accomplishment since the remodeling was 100 percent done by Sally and myself while both maintaining full-time jobs.   

The selling of the house however has cut deep wounds into our pride.  They say to not take things so seriously, but the selling process was brutal with several showings along with several low ball offers, followed by two contracts that fell through and then finally two solid offers both for above asking.   At times we were not sure our realtor worked for us.  Time after time she seemed to lobby in a way that made these deals potentially fall through.  Needless to say, when we got to the finish line of closing, we ran across that line as fast as we could.  Moving was an exercise of either FB market place or the trah bin   Many of the  possessions that we once deemed essential to our existence were now just a burden.    We did not hire movers,  I have the strong belief that if we can not move ourself you have too much stuff.    We finally realized that the stuff we owned actually owned us and it felt good to shed that feeling.   

We sit now in an apartment we rented on a four-month lease only to now figure out what do we do next?  Things become complicated at this point.  Sally works remote, and while I work remote now because of the pandemic it could change.  All of this is complicated by the fact that we purchased a Leopard L38 catamaran a week after moving into our apartment.  The boat came on the market much too soon but it was the perfect boat and we could not pass it up.    The dream of sailing to distance lands and explore is now within reach.  The only thing stopping us is the detachment from our life on land and real-world responsibility.  I never imagined this struggle would be as real as it feels.  In contrast I always dreamed of this day.  Sell it all, and then explore.  It seemed easy when it was a dream.  Much harder when you begin to walk down that road and make that dream happen.  All I know is that we are more terrified of not trying this, then we are of trying this.  Either way there is a significant amount of worry.  Maybe the unraveling is more in terms of our mental stability?  I am not sure a sane person would take on this challenge.  Leave the comforts of a rooted life to the unpredictability of a nomadic one.   

Not a bad looking house


The basement I never used
Not a bad covid project
Ready it not, it is ours

Did I just choose to be homeless?

Chapter 1 – Holy Shit we bought a boat! 

Columbus, OH, Feb 5, 2021

Ron has wanted a boat and to retire to this lifestyle for as long as I have known him.  He considers himself a bit of a beach bum.  So, after sitting on the dock in Australia looking at the boats, he bought one and taught himself how to sail.  He is just that kind of guy.  Can’t stand not to know how to do something.  Yet I only know of one thing he cannot do.  They guy cannot cook vegetables on the grill to save him life!!  Being a vegetarian and having asparagus ash for dinner is less fun that it sounds.  Trust me, I have tried it.

A dream was born

Blackened Veggies

Ron and I are good savers and have been our whole marriage.  it just happened to be something we were good at and for me that list was short.   Since we knew we were headed for sailing and travel, early retirement fits nicely.

But I digress, apparently, we are now homeless or at least houseless and I guess 4 children isn’t enough drama for us.  Ron and I have been bored during the pandemic and longing for some adventure for several years.   We closed on the boat a week ago and today, sold our house last November, and gave the apartment our 45 days move out notice.  We had decided to rent an Air BNB for a month near the beach.  And now, we are both terrified!  What have we done?  A blogger I follow always say – “How much is your comfort holding you back?”  I guess we are about to find out because this is clearly NOT in our comfort zone.  Especially since I have no clue how to sail other than I know the boat floats.  This will be interesting at the worst right?  I can row & swim.

So here is the plan.  We go down get the boat ready for the water.  We then come to Columbus and move our stuff to a storage unit.  We potentially could get the vaccine but debatable and see the kids.  Lastly, we go back to the boat and take off til Mid May for our test run.  We intend to stay in Columbus for the summer, get the kids all settled and then splash the boat again to take off to the Bahamas next winter.  Not a bad plan, right?  There are only a few hitches…Ron’s company is in the midst of being bought, the global pandemic, and how expensive Air BNB’s are?   We also have never spent more than 10 days on a catamaran so, will we even like the boat life?  Ya know – trivial things like that!

Security is an important thing, and we both just gave it up like dryer lint.  Don’t get me wrong, we have a plan B.   We could simply pull our stuff out of storage and set up shop in an apartment again.  We both could get a job (if we want) and we hope to be in line soon for a vaccine. 

On the flip side, it’s exciting to be so free.  Go where we want, when we want without the responsibility and burden.  We can always Air BNB in Columbus for heaven’s sake!  We don’t want to afford expensive rent + utilities for the next 6 months to a year.  It’s expensive to keep doing what we are doing and have security.  Splitting our time spending on the boat makes this very doable.  In fact, we end up saving monthly if we don’t have a “landing pad.”  This could work better than we ever planned, and next hurricane season we have the freedom to spend a month in California, Michigan by the lake, New England, wherever we dream up!  It’s exciting!

Well security or not, kids or not, we are together, and adventure is inevitable.  Be careful what we wish for…here it comes.